Dating a man in his 30s
He was 41, adventurous and enjoyed travelling — as do I.His emails were fun and witty and when we first met for a lunch date we left the pub at 6pm, always a good sign. My friends liked him and I couldn’t believe I’d found someone at last.I realised that since turning 35 three years ago, I hadn’t met anyone I liked romantically, who was also single, straight and interested in me. ’ one married ex-boyfriend wrote on my Facebook page. I joined running clubs, did acting classes and dance classes, went on skiing holidays and singles holidays and badgered my friends to set me up with their friends.Some attempts were more successful than others: a singles holiday to Greece made me feel like Elizabeth Taylor due to all the men after me, whereas one evening spent dinner dating with seven single women in their 40s and just two men — one of whom walked out after ten minutes — made me want to give up on the idea altogether.Why would they like someone who, if she can still have children, would need to have them straight away?
But when I phoned a dating agency eight months ago, everything had taken on a new sense of urgency. ‘Haven’t you found yourself a husband yet, Bridgey? But don’t look desperate — men hate that.’ I went speed-dating, online-dating, wine-tasting dating, quiz-dating and dinner-dating.
I turned up a few minutes late for one date to find that the guy had already ordered and eaten dinner without me, and I booked myself on a climbing holiday with 14 fit men, only to discover halfway up the highest mountain in North Africa that they were all married.
While I did meet some really nice men, it was certainly not at the tortuous round of singles events, at which there were always more women than men and everyone had a sad, resigned look in their eyes.
In other words, they’ve had to make the effort to see you.
You’d better be better be worth it, you lucky duck. Men in their 50s see Clarkson as their style muse Expect old fleeces and basics jeans on a first date. Men in their 50s can still be players But now they’re trying to cheat on their wife, not just their girlfriend. Men in their 50s run the gauntlet with their hair transplants While we all lose our looks as we get older, it’s still sad to know he’ll never look as good as Calum Best with his. Men in their 50s often have suspiciously long gaps between relationships He says he was a single father, although you suspect he may have just been watching About A Boy last night. Men in their 50s don’t often like change What do you mean you want dinner at a different pub? Men in their 50s prioritise their kids This is great. …But this doesn’t mean they won’t pay for their half of dinner with a voucher they found online.